It’s hard to believe that I gave birth to Andrew a month ago today. The day didn’t look quite like Kevin and I pictured it.
I’ve wanted to share Andrew’s birth story since the moment we had him {What proud Mama wouldn’t?}, but the first month since his stillbirth have been a whirlwind and I just haven’t had a chance to sit down to write it all out.
Before I get to all that though, I need to rewind a coupld of days.
On August 5th, I went in for my 39 week appointment and was excited to see how my body was progressing. I had been having some Braxton Hicks contractions on occassion and they had begun to intensify. After sitting in the waiting area for about 30-45 minutes, they finally called us back. Since it was summertime for Kevin, he was able to be there with me.
God also blessed us through the non-profit organization Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep. One of their photographers came in and took some professional photos for us free of charge. He was so kind to us and we are so grateful to him for his work. I could go on and on about the good things that God gave us that day to help get us through. He was certainly faithful that day.
I wish I had some super insightful comment to leave with any readers out there, but I don’t. All I know is that I trust the Lord. I trust in his plan for Kevin and I and for our precious Andrew. I trust that his promises are true and that Andrew is in the most perfect place he could be. I trust that one day I’ll see Andrew again when I am also in heaven with my creator. The world is a painful place, and I am so thankful that the Lord offers hope in the midst of it.
“Yet this I call to mind and therefore have hope:
Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail.
They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.”
Brave China Doll says
I stumbled upon your blog through the Apinis' blog. I am also friends with Ashly Tucker. Your faith astounds me. What a beautiful vessel of Christ you are.
I am so, so sorry you lost your sweet boy and will keep you in prayer.
Becca Daws
Stephanie says
I'm so so sorry for your loss. Andrew is truly blessed to have parents who love him so. I will keep you, your husband and your sweet angel in my thoughts and prayers.
Mary Ellen says
Just found your blog today and I just want you to know that I will add you to my prayer list of fellow Angel Mommies. You write so beautifully and my heartbreaks for the journey you are beginning.
Paige says
Sarah, Just stumbled accross your blog. Our daughter was stillborn last may at 36 weeks. I know your pain and hurt that you are going through, but am so thankful that you feel the presence of the Lord and have hope in his promises to see Andrew again in heaven. I can't wait!! I am praying for God's continued comfort in your lives!
katie davis says
sarah-
i found your blog through ashly tucker. i can't begin to imagine the utter heartbreak you and kevin have felt over the past month, and i have no super encouraging words to share. i just wanted to thank you for sharing your journey-it is evident that He is indeed your rock-your story and the memory of your precious son andrew will impact more than you will ever know for the kingdom…i know that is your heart's desire-thank you for being an inspiration to so many.
katie davis
ps-you're in richmond? me too=)
Daddy's Dream ~Mommy's Miracle says
I just came across your blog, and I am so sorry. We too lost our son at full term on 2/14/08. I know your pain and I will be praying for you and your family. God Bless
Anonymous says
Sarah and Kevin- God is being glorified! Thank you for being His vessel and sharing Andrews story with so many! We love you!
Robyn wilson
Anonymous says
i love you
Amy says
Loved getting to know Andrew! God bles your family.
Denise :) says
Hey Sarah — I saw your comment on Amy's anniversary post, and wandered over here from there. I'm Joc's mom. 🙂 I read through your blog — what a sweet baby girl you have — for a couple of entries before reading Andrew's story. I'm so very sorry. I'm also grateful that Jocelyn found your blog. Have a very blessed Resurrection weekend! 🙂
Jennifer says
Hi Sarah,
I found your blog through the Macs. Just know that I will continue to pray for you and your husband as well as your daughter as she grows up and has many questions about her brother. My son was 2 years old when his baby brother was born into the arms of Jesus. After 7 years we still miss Kyler every day, but we continue to cling to the hope we have in Christ. May the Lord's grace continue to sustain you all! Love and Blessings!!
B Ullman says
My God, what a tragic story. I don't know how you had the strength to write this at all. I just had my baby boy 4 weeks ago and I cannot imagine experiencing your situation. A virtual hug to your entire family.
Tesha says
Hi I found you from Kelly's link up I am so sorry you had ot walk this difficult path. Your story shines with love for Andrew, and Jesus. I am so blessed to have read this. Our sixth child a son was born sleeping 1-24-12. Hugs sweet mommy, saying a prayer for you.
Kay @Kays Little Korner says
Heartbreaking, but so encouraging as well. It is so easy to get wrapped up in our own troubles. God brings us to posts like this so that I can recognize His provision and be reminded that my troubles are small. Thank you for your honesty! May God bless you.
steddins@hotmail.com says
Thanks for commenting, Kay! I'm so thankful that people still get to "know" our son, even though it's been 4 years since we had to say goodbye. I will always have a heart for those who have lost children, especially b/c he is so much a part of who I am today. 🙂
FARMER &the BELL says
this is such a beautiful story. it brought tears to my eyes. thank you for sharing!
steddins@hotmail.com says
You are most welcome. We pray God uses Andrew's story in some way…and I love knowing people can read about him now even 4 years later.
Kathy Olson says
Thank you for sharing your heart so beautifully.
steddins@hotmail.com says
Thank you for taking the time to read, Kathy! I love knowing that people still read our son's story b/c he has a very special place in our family and in our hearts. 🙂
Aunt Margie says
Our precious grandson, Grayson, also entered heaven before we could know him. I discovered your site through Pinterest & when I looked at it I saw your photo & read your story. I marvel at the similarities in your story to our daughter's. We too were carried by the prayers of family & friends in September of 2013. time moves us on but we do so changed. I see you have been blessed with other children & I thank the Lord there can be joy after sorrow. Blessings
steddins@hotmail.com says
I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of Grayson. You are so right when you say that time moves you on, but as a changed person. You are never the same after a loss like that, but thankfully God DOES bring joy after sorrow. I will pray for you and your family as you grieve the loss of his precious life. It's so heartbreaking. Sending my love and hugs!
Kathy Skinner (Kat) says
I came to your blog via Pinterest and read the story of Andrew. Thank you for sharing this beautiful story of faith and hope!
steddins@hotmail.com says
Thanks for your sweet comments, Kat! Glad to know people still get to "know" our son through my blog! 🙂
Kim Holloway says
I stumbled upon your blog via Pinterest. You have no idea how your words in the story of Andrew just blessed me! Your faith and trust in our God astonishes me and pushes me to keep trusting despite what life throws my way. Bless you Sarah!!!
steddins@hotmail.com says
Thanks for your sweet encouragement! I can't take any credit for any of it – the Lord completely carried us through! Many blessings to you, Kim!
Grace Houle says
it is amazing the peace only God can give. Hearing your testimony of God's goodness through such a trial is evident of that. Thank you for sharing such an intimate part of your life. Still birth is one of those trials that breaks my heart whenever I hear of it. I can't fathom how hard it must be. God bless you, and may His continued strength be upon you.
steddins@hotmail.com says
Thank you so much for your sweet comment. It's hard to believe we are going on 5 years since that time…it seems like so long ago like just yesterday, all at the same time!
Terri Hughes says
What a sweet little angel……you and your husband WILL see your baby again. God Bless you and your family!
steddins@hotmail.com says
Thank you for your sweet comment. We look forward to that day so much!! 🙂
AmieJo says
You are a very strong person. I am not sure how I would have gotten through that and then to write about it so soon. You made me cry. I am happy you got to hold him and say goodbye. God Bless you.
steddins@hotmail.com says
Thank you for your kind comment, Amie Jo. We miss him so much, but God has done a healing work on our hearts.
Anonymous says
Thank you for posting your beautiful story. I stumble upon your blog looking for anything that I can do to support my wife who experience pregnancy after loss. Our son died during labor. It is the mystery of God who keep us going every second of our life.
Happylife38 says
To anonymous who posted on June 17, 2015 at 1:13 PM: the fact that you were browsing and looking to find anything to do so you can support your wife, makes you an amazing, caring husband. The world should have more husbands like you. So sorry to hear of your loss, as well as Sarah's. May God bless you all. There will be sunshine after the rain, even though the rain seems more like a hurricane at times. Keep on keeping on, God has you!!
Victoria Roth says
I was planning our family vacation on pinterest and came across your Blog on how to save money on vacation. I saw Andrew in the margin and I started to cry. I knew it was a baby loss story, as I too have lost a son, and I know how you never get over your loss. I have 4 healthy babies here on earth with me, but my son in Heaven is always on my mind. Thank you for posting this. So many mothers are afraid to speak of their losses, so thank you for your strength. You are blessed.